Discernment a Powerful Tool in Making Your Life for Easier

The first counsel written over the gateway to the temple of Delphi, “Know Thyself” is an important element of good discernment. In my experience, there is a direct correlation between the quality of discernment and how well I know myself. Having good discernment can help me see things with a clear eye and receive answers to questions like: Click to read more!

The first counsel written over the gateway to the temple of Delphi, Know Thyself is an important element of good discernment. In my experience, there is a direct correlation between the quality of discernment and how well I know myself. Having good discernment can help me see things with a clear eye and receive answers to questions like:

  • What is the best decision for me to make in the moment?
  • What is it I’m feeling – is it mine or someone else’s?
  • Is this career path in my future?
  • Should I move?, and if so, Where?
  • Are they telling me the truth?

People, places and things either resonate with us or they don’t. So how do we know which option is best when presented with a choice? How do we discern the highest and best for our self? How do we determine if something is real or not?

Discernment as defined in Merriam-Webster: the quality of being able to grasp and comprehend what is obscure (not clearly seen).

How many times have we made decisions that we instinctively knew were wrong only to kick ourselves later? I can raise my hand to that one! What happened? Why do we do this? I am sure there are lots of reasons. One time I was in denial, another time I was wanting to please my parents, and yet another time I thought I knew what was best for me – I was attached to the outcome. I therefore chose not to listen and consequently I couldn’t hear my own guidance. I was unable to discern the signals I needed to make a clear choice.


On the bright side, I stacked up experiences that showed me what discernment was and what it felt like. Kicking myself started to get costly, so I had to look back to see what was stopping me from acting on my discernment.  Why did I choose to go against my own discernment? Fear was my answer. Fear of reprisal, fear of not being loved, fear of making a mistake and/or doing something wrong. I didn’t trust myself either. I felt worthless and didn’t have self-love. Basically, negative beliefs and fears were challenging me. They were louder, drowning out any discernment I may have had.


Here’s an example. I was given a very expensive stereo by a friend of mine, a Bang & Olufsen (B&O). I loved it. I was preparing for a move so I wanted to lighten my load a bit. I went to a nearby B&O store to inquire about selling my stereo. Since I didn’t have a car, a salesman came to my apartment to view it. He told me yes, the store would buy it from me. He gave me his card and offered to drive it to the store for me. I agreed.He then asked me if I wanted a receipt. I said “No, I trust you. I know where you work.”

Alarm bells went off really loud in my head!!!! A memory even flashed before my eyes reminding me about the last time I said “I trust you” to a man. I ignored it all, I was paralyzed by my own fear. I didn’t hear from him and a couple of weeks had gone by, so I returned to the store. Turns out he had quit! My heart sank. I told the manager about the man and asked about my stereo. He told me he had not received my stereo nor did he know anything about it.

Was I really surprised?

I had clear discernment – something wasn’t right about this man and yet I fell flat-faced right into the fire only to get burned yet again! I literally watched myself give him the stereo, say “no” to a receipt and stand there, feeling stunned while watching him drive away. He was another rung on the ladder of lessons in discernment. I manifested him and others like him in order to learn about myself. There was an unconscious fear that was getting exposed. With this fear uncovered and acknowledged, the next time the alarm bells go off in a situation like this – I can listen and act in my best interest!


If I am worried, fearful, or upset in any way, discernment is impossible.

This is usually the case when faced with a big decision that has a desired outcome. When we allow the opinions of others to influence us, our own discernment usually gets lost. Add family dynamics, career limitations, financial concerns, etc. into the mix and it’s more confusing, making it tough to discern what is best. Even if we are able to discern clearly in these circumstances, we may not be able to act accordingly.

The more unattached to an outcome, the better. However, removing ourselves from the outcome of a potentially life altering decision is difficult at best. Emotions and feelings can also get in the way and prove to be more of a hinderance. Sometimes these feelings may not even be our own. It is often difficult to discern our own feelings from ones we have taken on from others.

Sometimes the best action is no action. In the example above, I could have stopped the whole deal by saying — “I’ll think about it.” At the time however I couldn’t stop myself. If somehow I realized I had the power to say – “I need to think about this.” – I could have changed the outcome. Now, I try to be clear and grounded before making a decision, it’s easier to discern the energy of a situation this way. I have to give this time to myself. If I find I am stuck, I remember the cost of not listening. Do I want to repeat another painful lesson? No, I really don’t.

As I mentioned earlier, taking a step back and getting myself grounded and into my heart, works. To help me ground, I go for a walk in nature. Some people meditate and do breathing exercises. Once grounded, you can ask yourself what it is you need to know. Discernment can be as simple as knowing something doesn’t feel right, to big alarm bells. It can also feel expansive and positive. You may even find yourself saying “Ah ha! I can see what’s going on here.” It brings clarity, intelligence and understanding. Trust these feelings. Like stated above, it’s easier to trust these feelings when one is unattached to an outcome and grounded.


When I understood I had deterrents that were more powerful than my own discernment, I knew things had to change or I would have a horrible life. When sharing with other people about my experience, I realized that most everyone had experienced something similar. This fact made it less personal and easier to act on my behalf without fear. I learned I had to witness any fears and objections that got in the way, acknowledge them as being heard. They didn’t have to fight so hard to get my attention anymore, so I became free then to act on my own discernment. I got my power back.

Bottom line:

You must know yourself as the counsel states – meaning being aware of your strengths and weaknesses, your wounds, behaviors and reactions, your feelings, negative beliefs, fears, values – in short – who you are. Total honesty and acceptance of yourself, without any judgment, is needed for better discernment. When there is no judgment, it’s easier to access true intelligence from our heart.

I hope you enjoyed this post. It was challenging to write about discernment. I can only hope I did it justice! If you have any questions or comments, please share below!

Please check out my other blog posts if you haven’t already!


  1. Well! I can again relate. I think we fall on our faces to learn how to toughen up and wise up to boot. Hopefully. I’ve learned to listen to my Inner Guidance and it is with regret I do admit that every time I go against it, I get burned. Every time! We are not taught in this world to listen to ourselves, to our Hearts, oh no! We are told a lot of fairy tales all so that others can control us. Nope. I refuse to allow that to happen any more. With anything, practice practice practice and practice some more. The lessons, I’ve learned tend to become more complex so that the growth and wisdom both become even more so. Such is life, Donna!!! Another phenomenal post! Thank you! 🌹

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    1. Thank you Amy! You are wise beyond your years, and so right about the fairy tales which have done so much more harm than good. You understand this. I guess in order to become a polished stone we much get churned around a bit! From reading your posts, I can tell you follow your guidance more so than not!! (like with your neighbor for example!) You are what my grandmother would call “A real trooper!!” That is a compliment!! Take care!! xx

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      1. I am so touched by your words, Donna. So much! Even as a child I saw so much wrong and I questioned everything for not much of anything made sense. I “knew” what was being taught especially in the religion department was wrong. And I got in a lot of trouble for saying so. I’ve learned to follow my guidance. That was not always so. LONG story there. But now I do and there is nothing anyone can do or say to make me change. I would have loved to meet your Grandma 👵! ❤

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        1. You would have loved my grandmother! You two would have gotten along just fine!! There are people on the planet, like you, who were placed here to be system busters – meaning you don’t put up with much crap and expose lies and fraud! You are not afraid to speak the truth and have loyalty and integrity! You are a Starseed and have come to earth at a very challenging time to help wake people up! Thank you!!!

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        2. Waking people up has been tough, dear friend. I keep seemingly hitting a brick wall. Yet there is just something deep within me I just will not compromise nor will I give up. Maybe soon my vacation comes. LOL Now that would be really nice!! 😎

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        3. It can be really challenging, to be sure. I know one who was allowed to retire from “brick walls” at 70!!! She heard very clearly – ok, it’s your time now! There is always hope!! Thanks for being you in the world!! xx

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